How To Win The Girl Back
When All Else Has Failed
When All Else Has Failed
Why is it that all the 'get ex back' advice out there has to do with doing less, and not more? You'd think that your ex-girl would understand how much you care about her, if you show her and tell her. And that she would desire this. Makes sense? Or does it?
Think about your past and when you were dating. I'm sure you can remember some instances when the girls whose interest you had to work much harder for were more appealing to you than those girls who hunted you down.
That's because we, perhaps subconsciously, place a greater value on that in which we had to put effort in to obtain. If something comes to us too easily, we somehow take it for granted. We respect that which we had to earn. Think about when you were in school, or your work, or your accomplishments.
Our self-esteem feels great when we strive to meet our goals. But when we didn't feel like we had to do much to receive, our self-esteem doesn't get that boost. Because we feel as though everyone else is in the same boat, it doesn't make us feel special. We're competitive by nature, so that in which we had to work for gets more of our respect.
But when it comes to figuring out how to win the girl back, all that professing of your undying emotions just goes unheard. Why?
If you were the type in the relationship to constantly let on how devoted you were to your girl, then after the break-up, she is thinking 'Well, why do I feel so crappy, even though you say you love me so much.'
On the contrary, if you were the type in the relationship to keep your emotions close to you, and not express how you were really and truly feeling, then after the break-up, she is thinking 'Well, if I meant that much to you then you would have told me then, 'cause telling me now sounds so insincere.'
Especially when her emotions are running high, and she is feeling all negative inside, your confessions of your undying love for her just annoy her. It doesn't work. What she needs from you is what she is asking for. Her time and space.
The inspiration for this blog post comes from a blog post that I received in my Facebook feed. The post makes for a long read, but it is a great example of how you want to purge and cleanse all your emotions in your life, and for the girl. Once you become honest with yourself, and all that you are, you can share this.
I would recommend you start a blog on the trials and tribulations, and the progress and success of being you. With a no-holds-barred approach, not only are you opening your soul to anyone who will listen, but your girl will get a chance to feel you for who you really are.
When she sees you opening up to the public eye, she will see that you couldn't just throw some bull-shit out there and hope for it stick. She will know your reputation is on the line. And what a romantic thing to do when you profess your love for your girl, and lay out your embarrassment for all to see (or in this case read).
Must be love!
Thoughts?
For more inspiration on how to win the girl back, click here!
-xo Kat
www.howtogeturgirlback.com
Think about your past and when you were dating. I'm sure you can remember some instances when the girls whose interest you had to work much harder for were more appealing to you than those girls who hunted you down.
That's because we, perhaps subconsciously, place a greater value on that in which we had to put effort in to obtain. If something comes to us too easily, we somehow take it for granted. We respect that which we had to earn. Think about when you were in school, or your work, or your accomplishments.
Our self-esteem feels great when we strive to meet our goals. But when we didn't feel like we had to do much to receive, our self-esteem doesn't get that boost. Because we feel as though everyone else is in the same boat, it doesn't make us feel special. We're competitive by nature, so that in which we had to work for gets more of our respect.
But when it comes to figuring out how to win the girl back, all that professing of your undying emotions just goes unheard. Why?
If you were the type in the relationship to constantly let on how devoted you were to your girl, then after the break-up, she is thinking 'Well, why do I feel so crappy, even though you say you love me so much.'
On the contrary, if you were the type in the relationship to keep your emotions close to you, and not express how you were really and truly feeling, then after the break-up, she is thinking 'Well, if I meant that much to you then you would have told me then, 'cause telling me now sounds so insincere.'
Especially when her emotions are running high, and she is feeling all negative inside, your confessions of your undying love for her just annoy her. It doesn't work. What she needs from you is what she is asking for. Her time and space.
The inspiration for this blog post comes from a blog post that I received in my Facebook feed. The post makes for a long read, but it is a great example of how you want to purge and cleanse all your emotions in your life, and for the girl. Once you become honest with yourself, and all that you are, you can share this.
I would recommend you start a blog on the trials and tribulations, and the progress and success of being you. With a no-holds-barred approach, not only are you opening your soul to anyone who will listen, but your girl will get a chance to feel you for who you really are.
When she sees you opening up to the public eye, she will see that you couldn't just throw some bull-shit out there and hope for it stick. She will know your reputation is on the line. And what a romantic thing to do when you profess your love for your girl, and lay out your embarrassment for all to see (or in this case read).
Must be love!
Thoughts?
For more inspiration on how to win the girl back, click here!
-xo Kat
www.howtogeturgirlback.com
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