What Do I Do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back? - 3 Tips You Need To Know  If you are determined to learn how to win a girl back after a break up, here is a bit of information that may help. It may not be easy and it might not even work, but if you don't try then you will never know...right? You also need to understand that some relationships are just not meant to be, and if that is the case with yours - then you're best to stop the clock, rather than have it keep going round and round. Sounds tough to hear...but let's be realistic. If you keep breaking up and getting back together, that's a strong clue. Or if you were more miserable than happy in the relationship, that's a strong sign. Instead, look elsewhere for comfort and a new beginning. However, the main objective here is to help you get an ex girlfriend back. So how is this done? First, you need to be in control of your emotions. This is not an easy one right now, since emotions are obviously running high for both of you. It is difficult to try and focus when you are feeling so depleted. It will require a conscious effort to deal with your emotions, but if you stay focused then you have the opportunity to prove yourself. You can do this. This doesn't mean ignoring how you feel, or doing destructive things (say excess drinking, couch potatoing). It means releasing your negative tension into positive pursuits (say kickboxing, painting). Turn to a trusted friend for support and advice. Heck, talk to a Counselor. No one has to know you went, but you. Next, don't even think about retaliation if you want to get back with her. Some guys retaliate after a break up and this will definitely make things worse than they already are. You don't need this. Jealousy will do nothing for her to want to be with you again, so don't even go there. Sure you may get a reaction out of her, an angry one. But making her jealous will cause her to mistrust you, and it will push her away from you even more. This is especially true if you had trust problems in your relationship. Also, you want to give your ex the time and space she needs. So avoid contacting her, especially right after the break up. This is probably one of the most difficult things to do, but it is something you must do. It gives her a chance to miss you. Until she misses you, she won't want anything to do with you. In the meantime, you do want to get out and about. Staying home will do nothing but allow your emotions to fester. You will just worry and wonder what she is up to. These won't be happy thoughts. Don't stay lonely. Instead, get out with your friends. These 3 pointers - deal with your emotions, don't make her jealous, give her space while you stay busy, should help answer your question - 'What do I do to get my ex girlfriend back?' -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the founder of "Getting Her Back... for Good" and has taught 1000s of men all over the world how to recover their lost love. He details his steps and valuable advice at Getting Her Back. Add Comment What Do I Do To Get My Ex Back? - 3 Things She Needs From You  I am featuring a video by my friend Ashley, as she answers your question - 'What Do I Do To Get My Ex Back?' Well, there are 3 things she NEEDS from you. The reason she left you is because she wasn't getting her needs met in the relationship. How to win the girl back has to do with knowing WHY she left. And you have to work on giving her these 3 NEEDS to get her back. Check out the short video below - How To Get Your Girlfriend Back: What Women Want & How To Give It To Them Hope this short video has given you some insight to help you get back her love. I appreciate all comments. Cheers, -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com Also by Ashley...  How Can I Get My Ex To Want Me Back? Don't Make THIS Mistake - Before She Is Ready!  Were you a strong and confident man when you were with your girlfriend? Did your life abruptly stop when the pain of losing her kicked in? Men that have everything going for them literally break down and are unable to function, when they lose the love of an ex. Their job performance suffers, they lose all confidence in themselves, and all they want to do now is stay home and think about the life they once had. They feel miserable. Maybe you can relate. Every single day, thousands of men go through the horrible experience of losing an ex. The gut-wrenching feeling of losing a girlfriend is just too much. And what's worse is that many guys simply don't know what to do. If you are one of these men that are panic stricken over the loss of a relationship, and are completely confused about what to do, just know what you are experiencing is completely normal. Because the pain is so intense, the only thing that matters is getting her back. This makes it incredibly difficult to focus on anything else. Yet life must go on at the same time, at your job, with your school work, wherever. You may feel that unless you get your ex back, you will just stay depressed. Many guys who have experienced what you are going through now will agree that life meant nothing without her in it. You may be a whiz at your job with coming up with solutions, or you may easily be passing those tests in your studies. But when it comes to saving your relationship, and even getting your ex back, you feel like a failure. If only it were as easy as the movies lead us to believe. We just show up at our ex's with flowers in hand, and voila! But you may have already tried the begging route. And the results were useless. Yet nobody has any answers. Your family and friends mean well, but they tell you that you can do better, or to just get over it. It's like nobody has any clue what you are going through. So what do you do? Is there anything you can do to feel better and get her back? Or should you just give up and stay miserable forever? The thing is any discussion of your relationship problems, and how to resolve the issues won't go over well with her. She is not in a position to hear any of it 'cause she's not in the right state of mind. Any discussing of fixing the relationship was to be done before the break-up. But now that the relationship is over, you need to get her to spend time with you again first, before you discuss those things. Prematurely talking about the relationship and how to fix it will just annoy her. She will either be too angry with you, or turned off. This is why trying to talk some logic about the relationship will just fall on deaf ears, or make matters worse. The trick is you need to change her MOOD. By doing this correctly, you put her in a BETTER frame of mind. She will come to her own senses that the break-up may not be the best thing for her. She will start to realize that she is making a mistake. Don't thing you can swing her mood by pouring your soul out, whether through words or actions. This will not work. The flowers will not mean the same like they once did, or would have during the relationship. Using the right strategies to get your ex back involves knowing the right things to say and do to get her thinking POSITIVELY about you and the relationship. What won't work is convincing your girl to give you a second chance. What will work is setting things up so she starts to convince HERSELF that you're the only guy in the world for her. When it's her wanting YOU back, you will feel better, you will feel more confident, you will feel more secure. You will get back those great feelings you once had about yourself. I know you want to get rid of the emotional pain, the drama, and the aggravation. I know you desire love, respect, and making love. The trick is to know how to win the girl back when all else has failed. This is why you need to know these strategies for changing her negative emotions into positive ones, and to transforming your pain into happiness. Go from thinking 'how can I get my ex to want me back' to knowing you are the luckiest guy on the planet! All the best! -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com How Do I Get An Ex Girlfriend Back? - The Problem With Showing Your Love  I was chatting with a good buddy of mine the other day, and it occurred to me that her and her husband have already been married for a few years now. The funny thing is when she was first dating her husband, she was treating him more like a casual fling than anything else. So you could imagine my surprise way back when, when she told me they were 'going out', and then engaged. I asked her what it was about him that turned him from 'someone good for now' into 'someone great for always', and she recounts how she wasn't into him, UNTIL he backed off 'for good'. He sprung an ultimatum on her (which she didn't like at all), and told her that he couldn't continue to see her unless it was 'official'. My friend didn't like being put on the spot like that, so she agreed they should stop seeing each other then. He tried a couple more times to contact her, but she didn't return his calls. Then she was explaining how it was bothering her that a month or so went by without his calls, or his attention. It all made sense to me. In dating land, we are always most curious by the ones that intrigue us. And these people are those that we have to work a little to get their attention. We don't like people that 'need' us, we love people that 'want' us. So go figure that my buddy's interest piqued in her guy when she was unsure of his feelings anymore, as opposed to when it was so obvious. In this sense, the same can be said for those that are wondering - How do I get an ex girlfriend back? The answer is... You have the best chance of getting her back, if you give her the chance to wonder about you. But she's not going to wonder about you, if she's not thinking about you. And when I mean thinking, I don't mean negative thoughts. What I mean is you have her curiosity piqued...in a good way. This is exactly why being predictable with your feelings, and confessing your undying love, does not work. If anything, she will be pissed off if she constantly wanted more attention from you during the relationship, but you never stepped up.. until now. She will be annoyed if you were the clingy type, and she was always asking for her space. And you keep doing the same things.. still. And if you've cheated, and now think showering her with affection will work.. wrong. She's turned off 'cause the trust has been broken. She needs to miss you. So let her think about you. If she gets worried that you're not into her as much, or at all - she will want to do something about this. This is a good thing. Whether it's the attention she misses, or it's genuinely about you, time will tell. The whole point is you want to re-establish the basis for a connection. Once you get her talking, and agreeing to see you, is when you can leverage the relationship some more. As long as you have her listening, you get the power of winning back her heart. But if she refuses to hear you, or see you, then you've got to make her fret a little. Back off, and let her seek you out. Believe me, she will. Her desire for you will re-emerge, 'cause you aren't being the safe, and annoying, bet anymore. -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com How To Win The Girl Back When All Else Has Failed  Why is it that all the 'get ex back' advice out there has to do with doing less, and not more? You'd think that your ex-girl would understand how much you care about her, if you show her and tell her. And that she would desire this. Makes sense? Or does it? Think about your past and when you were dating. I'm sure you can remember some instances when the girls whose interest you had to work much harder for were more appealing to you than those girls who hunted you down. That's because we, perhaps subconsciously, place a greater value on that in which we had to put effort in to obtain. If something comes to us too easily, we somehow take it for granted. We respect that which we had to earn. Think about when you were in school, or your work, or your accomplishments. Our self-esteem feels great when we strive to meet our goals. But when we didn't feel like we had to do much to receive, our self-esteem doesn't get that boost. Because we feel as though everyone else is in the same boat, it doesn't make us feel special. We're competitive by nature, so that in which we had to work for gets more of our respect. But when it comes to figuring out how to win the girl back, all that professing of your undying emotions just goes unheard. Why? If you were the type in the relationship to constantly let on how devoted you were to your girl, then after the break-up, she is thinking 'Well, why do I feel so crappy, even though you say you love me so much.' On the contrary, if you were the type in the relationship to keep your emotions close to you, and not express how you were really and truly feeling, then after the break-up, she is thinking 'Well, if I meant that much to you then you would have told me then, 'cause telling me now sounds so insincere.' Especially when her emotions are running high, and she is feeling all negative inside, your confessions of your undying love for her just annoy her. It doesn't work. What she needs from you is what she is asking for. Her time and space. The inspiration for this blog post comes from a blog post that I received in my Facebook feed. The post makes for a long read, but it is a great example of how you want to purge and cleanse all your emotions in your life, and for the girl. Once you become honest with yourself, and all that you are, you can share this. I would recommend you start a blog on the trials and tribulations, and the progress and success of being you. With a no-holds-barred approach, not only are you opening your soul to anyone who will listen, but your girl will get a chance to feel you for who you really are. When she sees you opening up to the public eye, she will see that you couldn't just throw some bull-shit out there and hope for it stick. She will know your reputation is on the line. And what a romantic thing to do when you profess your love for your girl, and lay out your embarrassment for all to see (or in this case read). Must be love! Thoughts? For more inspiration on how to win the girl back, click here! -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com How To Win A Girl Back After A Break Up 02/15/2011
How To Win A Girl Back After A Break Up  Supposedly the day after Valentine's Day is the busiest ever for dating sites? Why? It seems that the high expectations of a romantic day leads many of a girl packing their bags for greener pastures. If Romeo slacked on the romance on an obvious day such as Valentine's Day than Juliet loses all help. And often it's not until Juliet is out the door that you realize just how much Juliet (or insert your girl's name here) means to you. Whether it's after the holiday season, after Valentine's, or after just an average day, you may just be wondering how to win a girl back after a break up. Let's focus on your emotions here. A break up will foster all sorts of emotions that you may or may not have experienced before with this particular girl. You have to allow yourself to experience and express these emotions, before you can think about moving towards winning her back. Everyone reacts differently to a break up, probably dependent on how much they feel emotionally-invested to the situation. Meaning the more you feel you love someone, the harder it is to let go. Or, the more you want to be with them. The following 12 emotions are only some of what you may be experiencing during your break up. These emotions aren't in any particular order, nor is it to say you will be experiencing all of these. Also, what you may be feeling may not be listed. Love - You're feeling all sorts of love emotions that you may not have even felt for her yet. Sometimes, we don't know what we have until it's gone. It could be a case of taking someone for granted, or perhaps we just haven't been attune to things. But now, we know what we want. And it's her. Sadness - Sure, it's disappointing to chalk up your break up to a quality, or qualities, you lack as a person. It makes us feel awful knowing that we've hurt someone, in this case someone we really care about, and so we feel crappy ourselves. And we miss her. Depressed - When it just hurts so much 'cause you want her back and all you can do is think about her. When they say time heals all wounds, at this point you don't think it ever will. You miss her. Badly. Anger - You could be feeling so much torment inside, especially if there is another male in the picture. You could be feeling so betrayed, like you thought you meant so much to her. How could she possibly have wronged you? Disbelief - You may feel shocked that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. You may be feeling in denial and that she will come to her senses. Perhaps she was just having a bad day, you wonder. But then reality kicks in. Rejection - Especially if you are the one that has been dumped, it can't make you feel special. You might even be questioning your self-worth, 'cause you thought you had what it took. Now you have to re-evaluate who you are, and it stings. Jealousy - If you're feeling jealous, then you have to wonder what's really going on for you. Were you taking her for granted before? Why is it that now that she's got her eye on someone else is this break up grating on you? Humility - Sure, depending on your sense of vulnerability. It could have been a public affair. Now you find that you're not only dealing with what she is thinking, but what others are thinking too. Insecurity - Naturally, you just don't know what you need to do to get her to have love for you again. You can't imagine life without her, but more so you can't imagine being alone. This might make you feel needy for her. Retaliation - You could be feeling so bitter that you want her to feel just as crappy as you do. You think it will create desire in her, or at least you will get your revenge. Only problem - you know you want her back. Don't worsen the trust. Loneliness - Of course if you have been spending all your time with the same person day in and day out, you may find yourself lonely. It's important to re-connect with your buddies or make new friends. Do not hibernate feeling sorry for yourself. Guilt - Your guilt may be eating you up inside where you can't help but wonder, "If only I..." This will only perpetuate your negative emotions. You have to come to peace knowing that you did what you knew at the time. Otherwise, you would have done better. These are some of the top break up emotions that have come to mind as I write this. Surely, this is not an endless list and not a list with an ordered set of emotions. To win a girl back after a break up, you really have to sit down and clear out your emotions. You have to get to a place of acceptance. You have to accept the break up for what it is. You have to come to peace with yourself. Of course, the time line for this varies. Everyone is different. If you feel you can't get through your day 'cause you feel really weighed down with negative emotions, it's honestly best to seek out professional help. There's nothing wrong with that! It's more common than you think to seek out help, 'cause people don't talk about it so openly. The key thing is you want to make yourself a better person for YOU, and if you get a girl back as a result - then BONUS. It IS attractive when a man betters himself as a man. When he wants to do good for himself, and for others in his life is what draws women to men. It makes a girl feel confident that she can trust that her man knows how who he is, and what he needs to do. How to win a girl back after a break up is by going back to that confident, secure, happy, and trustworthy man she fell in love with in the first place. Once you have worked on your emotions, and you feel that you're in a great position to try and get her back, click here. All the best! -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com P.S. I would love to know what you thought of this post, including some emotions I could have included! How 2 Get A Girl Back - 4 Things You Must Know First  It just so happens that I write this in the early morning hours towards Valentine's Day. Hopefully, you can be happy today, and know that she's thinking about you too. If you have broken up with your girlfriend and don't know how 2 get her back, then let me help you get started the right way. Before you can even consider planning your relationship repair strategy, you must take into account the following 4 factors for how 2 get a girl back:
The reason it is important to answer these questions before attempting to get her back is it helps you determine your strategy. Every relationship is different, so there are different ways to go about getting her to come back to you. Thus, what worked for someone else in getting their ex back may or may not work for you. You want to consider your current circumstances, and use that knowledge to maximize your chances of getting her to come back to you. Let's look at those 4 factors mentioned above and see why they are indeed important for how 2 get a girl back: It's important to consider the length of your relationship, because it defines how fast you must act when winning back her heart. It also lets you know how much leeway you have if you were to make mistakes. The longer the relationship was the more you can afford to step back and let time take its healing role, without fear of losing her altogether. In contrast, if you've only been dating for a couple of weeks, then giving her 3 months of space will not help your situation out too much. Knowing when your break-up occurred exactly reminds you that time is of the essence. The shorter the relationship was the faster you must put your strategy into place. The longer your relationship with her then the more time you have to work on getting her back. You have to know the reason for the break-up. Did she break up with you because you were too needy, or because you didn't pay enough attention to her? Depending on your answer, it determines how aggressively you should be pursuing her. If she said you didn't give her enough attention then you need to actively attempt to re-solve your differences. This doesn't include the classic mistake of begging her to come back though. However, if she thought you were too clingy, then you definitely need to back off. Trying to work on things with her, when she thinks you're needy, will only annoy her even more. Knowing what errors you have made thus far in trying to get her back, i.e. begging, pleading, and what steps she's taken towards getting back together is what makes your situation different from everybody else's. No matter how unique your particular breakup scenario is - it’s more than possible to come up with an effective strategy for how to win the girl back, by taking the 4 starting points and putting them together to maximize your chances of success. Want an effective strategy for How 2 Get A Girl Back? Click here. -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com When She Says She Needs Space 02/06/2011
When She Says She Needs Space  Has your girlfriend or ex girlfriend told you she needs space? Wondering what the heck she means by this? When she says she needs space, it literally means she needs space between you and her. Not just physical space, but mental space as well. She doesn't need to hear from you at this moment. She will contact you when she's ready. It is important that you don't try and work what she is requesting from you in your favor. What I mean is you don't want to think she is playing hard to get. She is not. She is telling you exactly what is required of you. If you don't give her the space, and the time (as these two do go hand in hand) that she needs, you are going to make things worse. Trust me. If you don't respect her wishes, she will think the following two things. First, she will see that you just don't get it. And this will again remind her of the other faults in the relationship, and why you aren't ultimately making her happy. Second, she will see that you are being selfish, needy, desperate, worried... and none of these qualities will turn her on. In fact, they will turn her off of you. If a woman says she needs space, remove yourself from her. No calling, no emailing, no texting, no snail mail. Otherwise, she won't just ask for her space. She will demand it. If you bug her, you will be a nuisance. It will not show how much you care. She already knows that. So if a woman says she needs her space. Disappear. She knows how to find you. To get your ex-girlfriend back, you must do the opposite of what you think you should do! -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com When You Are Still In Love With Ex Girlfriend  Hey guys, When you are still in love with ex girlfriend, you will try anything that you think will work to get her back. I wanted to share this great article with you. The comparison of a relationship being like a fire, in which you can either ruin it or save it, is awesome! By reading this, I think we can all understand the sense of urgency rekindling a relationship is about. Cheers! -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com ---- When You Are Still In Love With Ex Girlfriend... You smell the smoke, hear the crackling of a flame and start to weaken from the searing heat. and...You suspect there's about to be a storming fire. The destruction you fear won't be about any material goods lost, but from something much more precious - a once loving relationship going up in flames. No matter what issue was the last straw to set your fire ablaze, many of us don't know where or how to begin applying the water to put the fire out. In fact... Unlike a real fire where a fireman (or woman) first looks to find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible), many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires. For example, let's imagine that since this 'recession' your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires. Not too hard to imagine these days? These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments over how and where money is being spent...or not spent. Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these financial fires one partner starts 'escaping' more than is healthy for the relationship. Say he escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber Porn...or worse? Now...what do we have? We've got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third, because the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated. Can you almost feel the pressure? Feel it coming to a boil? Now with three fires off to a crackling start there's even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas. So? Just which fire do we put out first? Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to extinguish right now and not likely to die soon. So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems like an easy fire to put out...IF you're not the one escaping! ...and try telling someone that's feeling lonely and isolated that "they should just snap out of it" is like throwing fuel into the fire. So where do we begin, when we don't see any good place to start? And we finally realize that trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads the fire?...FASTER! The answer is... Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there IS NO FIRE! Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat and no flame. What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s) and focus on where we still have passion...even if it's just a little. Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside, and begin to rebuild the passion between you two. And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you've rekindled the passion between you...the PROBLEMS will often work themselves out. The fires extinguish themselves. Here's how it may play out using our example; Tom and Cindy both love cooking together. They both actively decide to let their problems go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start by cooking dinner together and EATING together at the dinner table...EVERY night. Often because they've had such a great time cooking and eating together... they play some cards or monopoly afterward and share some laughs and have a little fun. Now, because Cindy isn't feeling so isolated that Tom's always watching TV or surfing the web... That little bit of fun turns into love making a little more often. Which in part...leads to... Tom starts to feel better, finds new confidence - and as his confidence builds... Tom gets more assertive about finding work. Soon... Tom lands what may not be the best job in the world, but one that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he can find his perfect fit. And before your very eyes... Where Tom and Cindy's relationship was about to burst into flames... Now, they are rising from the rubble with a stronger and more fire proof relationship than ever before. The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION couples can overcome almost any problem including affairs, drug use, even death in the family. But when there is very little passion, even the tiniest problems become big, out of control, blazing fires. Now if you're reading this, but feel that an out of control fire has already 'gutted' and put an end to your relationship - you may find it comforting to know that there may be a second chance for you? I've made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human love, bonding and RE-BONDING process. Many of these breakthroughs are just as counter-intuitive as the technique I've just handed you here. I've made a special video with you in mind where I share one of my counter-intuitive re-bonding techniques. You're invited to watch here: * Still In Love With Ex Girlfriend? Video * While I'm a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera... ...the video has been watched over 893,000+ times (rated 4 1/2 stars), and it's rare for a day to go by where I don't receive a really heart warming note from someone that has put their relationship back together after going through hell and fearing they'd never find their way back. Hope it helps you too:-) By T Dub Jackson, Author of The Magic of Making Up System Winning Back Her Heart 12/29/2010
Winning Back Her Heart  The more time that goes by, the more indifferent your ex-girlfriend becomes towards you. This is deadly, if your goal is winning back her heart. As long as she is angry or upset with you, it means she still cares. But this can only last for so long, before she begins to not care anymore. This is your chance, and maybe final chance, to re-heal a broken relationship and prevent one from breaking again in the future. Isn't it ironic that you can give your friends what seems like perfect advice when they are going through a painful break-up? But for some reason, you just can't do the right things to help yourself. Are you tired of guessing? Do you just want to get it RIGHT? STOP what you are doing right now to try and get UR girl back - Just Stop! Because what you are doing now is clearly not working for you (otherwise she would already be swaying in your arms - and you wouldn't be reading this!) Know what you are doing wrong to start doing what's right! You want to get into the right frame of mind again, assess the situation from a clear perspective, get on the right track, and stay on the same course! Giving $40 towards something that will truly benefit your life (like figuring out how 2 get a girl back) sounds like nothing, when you have a LOT more to lose! You can discover how to get UR girl back...and make it happen...before it's too late! Best of luck on winning back her heart! -xo Kat www.howtogeturgirlback.com |  How To Win
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